A course at The Calgary Pagan School
Inspired by Great Psychiatrists, Counselors and programers and Written by Laurie Lee Mills
If you follow through with everyday meditations and brain exercises, we’ve learned previously, eventually you will become more aware of all the things you want to change about yourself. You will become more focused and become able to tell the Gods more clearly what you want, without the inner thought clutter or static interference. This, my friends, is better than any drug you can get.
To heal, we say to our group (in sharing time) each moon 1) what a problem is that we are having. 2) how we plan to work on it, or have worked on it, and ask for suggestions if nothing has worked 3) ask for the kind of support we need.
If a person isn’t able to be intimate and share, without fear of judgement, they’ll get too stressed out which in turn causes illness both mental or physical. If the same old story keeps coming back to circle without improvement within 3 moons then we do not want to hear it anymore. You need to take it to a professional. There are many who get their energy by being angry and blaming others as then they get all the sympathy and well wishing and encouragement with compliments from others even strangers on the net. They become addicted to this and subconsciously cause crisis to happen so they can get their fix. Sad. I call it the Mimi syndrome. If a person is really serious about resolving an issue, it will be done in 3 moons. If they do not get this attention seeking approval of their actions, they move elsewhere to another group who tolerates these things for awhile then they move again until they find persons at their maturity level. In order to truly want improvement in your life, you do not want ongoing unwarranted sympathy.
These are some things we do in Discovering Self that most of us need to work on if our lives are not where we want them to be:
We help you see how to Get rid of “ugly” persons – those who make you feel bad about yourself by never supporting any venture that makes you excited and holding you back, thus keeping you in their view of the world, Those who continuously do things to you or make you do things that you don’t like or want to do, those who are always whining or are emotionally draining – you can tell because once they’ve left you feel depleted or sad. And lastly those who constantly hurting you or making you feel bad about yourself. This may sound like an easy thing to see but it is not. For most they are unwilling to get rid of the familiar and some of these people they’ve known for years or are family.
We Help you see how you might be hurting others – Are you constantly hurting a person close to you and either don’t care, don’t see how you are or can’t seem to stop. Do you think it is their fault. *If this person is your mate, leaving for someone else will not solve the problem. We Help you to learn how to set boundaries – details of what you feel when they do the act and what the clear consequences will be if they act this way again.
How developing a new relationship without healing the past issues within, will result in the same all over again. You will have the same set of problems with added new difficulties but all with the same lesson to learn.
Help you understand the differences – lust is lust, friendship is friendship & love is another thing all together. The connections between these and the boundaries. We Find happiness in someone as a potential mate, first by developing a close bond and having mutual attraction. If you had this in the beginning, then it still is there even if times are difficult now. It just got buried somehow. You must learn how to uncover it.
– Discovering Self class is all important to know for providing better communication skills for your social life, career and love life.
We will listen to anything, no matter how bizarre, and will support you in your struggle. You’d be surprised to find you are definitely not alone. From the most bizarre fetishes, to prostitution for survival to drug use and so on. No need to be worried here in this SAFE environment. You can be yourself with no judgement. Don’t be worried if you think you need to work on something that seems overwhelming or embarrassing. Addictions, sex addictions, abused or abuser, closet gay and so on have been discussed before.
When sharing personal things in circle, we always go through the five emotions then END WITH A SOLUTION THAT YOU WILL TRY.